Remember this saying and live by it!
“Coaches Coach, Children Play, Parents Cheer”
Please review the Codes of Conduct for Parents: CalSouth_Codes_of_Conduct
Redefine winning! Losing can be a triumph when the team has given its best! Help your child to see a game well played as a win! Encourage them win or lose. The focus should be on doing their best while always getting better, not the results of a single game. Emphasize improved performance, not winning.
Learn the game– Many parents attend soccer games for years without really understanding what is happening on the field. Read your Soccer 101 guide (on our website) and make an effort to learn the soccer terms. It even attempts to explain the mysterious offside rule which is the most misunderstood rule in soccer.
Participate! Buy a ball and play! Have fun with your kids while they learn soccer skills and play with them. You will see just how hard it is to get the ball to go where you want it to!
Encourage neighborhood games and your child to play soccer with their friends. A portable goal is a great item to have as well as some of the orange cones for practicing at home.
Attend – Stay and watch the games and practices! Some coaches only recognize the parents by the make of their car as when they drop their kids off at the practices and games. Soccer is not a childcare service.
Make sure you get your child to practices and games on time. It is embarrassing for your child to be late and missing warm-ups can put your child at risk of being injured. Be courteous of the coach’s time, call if your child will miss a game or practice.Don’t be late to pick them up. The coach’s time is valuable too!
Make soccer available – Have soccer balls around the house! Watch soccer on TV, watch the movie “The Big Green”, check out videos and books from the library, go to soccer games (call the local high school and get their game schedule), subscribe to a soccer magazine, search the internet, learn to be a referee or coach.
Create a positive environment– Don’t yell! Soccer is supposed to be fun and no one likes to be yelled at. Don’t lecture your child about their performance. Withhold criticism when they or the team perform poorly.
Surprising even the experts, when players were polled on what part of the sport they played they liked the least, the youth players most common answer checked was “The car ride home with my parents.” The second most common check mark was “Parents yelling from the sidelines.”
If you can’t resist the urge to yell try sitting in a chair instead of standing, or suck on a sucker and every time you feel the urge to “participate” put it in your mouth.
Be positive and supportive of the team and Coach! If YOU show respect, your child will learn by example. Encourage fairness! Praise all of the kids on the team, even yours! Let them be kids. Your enthusiasm for each practice and game will be CONTAGIOUS to your child.
Don’t talk about the coach and his/her decisions in front of your child. It undermines their relationship with the coach and creates confusion for your child.
If you cannot work out a problem with the coach, don’t discuss with all the other parents. Please contact the league and let us mediate before the problem escalates.
Support the kids! This means all the kids. Make positive comments to players, not negative ones. Don’t groan when someone misses the ball. After a loss or a mistake, don’t malign the other players. They are children too. Make a rule for yourself – say one positive thing to an opponent each half! Applaud a great save by the opposing goalie, a wonderful pass or a beautiful defensive play.
Support the team! This can be as simple as bringing the oranges and the after game snack. Wear your teams colors to the games (yes, even if they are neon lime green or orange) and attend all games.
Don’t yell at referees!! The coaches job is to talk to referees, no parent should ever yell at, talk about loudly, or display anger towards a referee. The league has a zero tolerance policy on yelling at referees.
Prepare your child – Have the proper equipment and have it ready. See that your child eats properly before the games and practices, make sure your child gets a good night’s rest and always bring their water bottle to every practice and game.
Support the program, get involved! There are lots of things to do. Be a coach, an assistant coach, team parent, board member. Offer a hand when they need someone to help line the field or put up and take down the nets. The more parents that volunteer the better our program becomes!
Remember the game is for the players Keep sports in perspective! Soccer should be fun for the players and their parents. If not it will be hard for either to stick with it.